Part 7: one of my reader's questions answered

From: anonymous,

Q: I can relate to your message a lot do to the fact that i have recently overcame the fear of swimming after reading your message of becoming OCD free. but the only fear that is stopping me form being happy is the fear of getting hurt again in a relationship. this is a fear that i don't think that i will ever overcome. is is possible that...

A: It's very possible. I myself have been in and out of relationships and it's never easy. One thing that I can tell you is that I don't regret being with any of the people I was with. I learned something being with each one. When you meet that new person that makes your heart skip a beat and you think they could be the one, give your heart to them, if they step on it, you know they're not worth it. If they embrace it and love you back, there is nothing in the universe that feels like that. Unfortunately, the only way we can truly fall in love with someone and find out if they really love us is to give the other person an opportunity to let us down.

What you can do to prevent yourself from several heartbreaks is to write down what you want in a person. Don't date someone just because you're lonely. Date someone that you are attracted to and that as far as you know, could be the one. Don't date someone that raises red flags in your mind. Make sure that you don't open your heart to them until you feel like they feel the same way about you. Wait a few months before you even consider opening up all the way to them, that way you can see what kind of person they really are. Ask them a lot of questions and find out who they are as a person. If you still think they could be the one, gradually open your heart to them, if you know their not the one, walk away...

until next post,
Derek

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