Part 7: one of my reader's questions answered

From: anonymous,

Q: I can relate to your message a lot do to the fact that i have recently overcame the fear of swimming after reading your message of becoming OCD free. but the only fear that is stopping me form being happy is the fear of getting hurt again in a relationship. this is a fear that i don't think that i will ever overcome. is is possible that...

A: It's very possible. I myself have been in and out of relationships and it's never easy. One thing that I can tell you is that I don't regret being with any of the people I was with. I learned something being with each one. When you meet that new person that makes your heart skip a beat and you think they could be the one, give your heart to them, if they step on it, you know they're not worth it. If they embrace it and love you back, there is nothing in the universe that feels like that. Unfortunately, the only way we can truly fall in love with someone and find out if they really love us is to give the other person an opportunity to let us down.

What you can do to prevent yourself from several heartbreaks is to write down what you want in a person. Don't date someone just because you're lonely. Date someone that you are attracted to and that as far as you know, could be the one. Don't date someone that raises red flags in your mind. Make sure that you don't open your heart to them until you feel like they feel the same way about you. Wait a few months before you even consider opening up all the way to them, that way you can see what kind of person they really are. Ask them a lot of questions and find out who they are as a person. If you still think they could be the one, gradually open your heart to them, if you know their not the one, walk away...

until next post,
Derek

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Part 6: Becoming OCD free

Remember that OCD is based on a fear that you have. Remember that fears by themselves are harmless.

Keep in mind that everyone has fears, it's part of life and they are there for good reason. It's good that we are afraid of snakes or spiders, as some of the can be poisonous. Good thing we are afraid of lions or bears, as they can kill us. So fear has a productive function.

But today, people have fears about social things more than anything else. We develop this fight or flight response off things that do not warrant it. We don't live in the jungle anymore, but our genes don't seem to know that.

So we have got to retrain our minds into thinking that fears are now mostly useless. We've got to know when a fear is legitimate or not and we can know by asking ourself this simple question, "Is mine or someone else's life in real danger here?" "Is there anything that I can realistically do about it?" If the answer is no to both, then you need to put the fear aside and think about something you love and are excited about.

Think about what you have to do that day and think about how you can squeeze some adventure into your day. Let the unwanted thought linger and it will go away faster than if you try to force it out, just focus more on your adventure for the day and the quality of your life will raise greatly!

until next post,

Derek

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Part 5: Picture yourself OCD free

This may sound obvious, but I know it's grossly overlooked, but it's cool and it helps.

Picture yourself OCD free...

If you won't let it happen in your mind, how can it happen in real life?

A lot of people just want some magic pill to cure all their ills, but the only problem with this want is that it's not real. There is no magic pill that cures OCD, but there are mental exercises that we can do to reduce OCD and then become free of it.

So close your eyes, relax every muscle and picture yourself somewhere nice like the beach. Picture yourself living like you did before you had OCD.

If you've had it for as long as you remember, think of someone that you admire that you know doesn't have OCD. What kind of life do they live? How can you incorporate those positive things into your life while maintaining your own individuality?

Remember that as a man thinketh, so he is. So start getting used to picturing yourself OCD free so you can prepare your mind for the next important step which is.........until next post,

Derek

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Part 4: Becoming OCD free one step at a time

I can't believe it's 6:30 in the morning and I am blogging, I am usually up at 9 or 10! I woke up early for some reason and I had a great thought that I wanted to share with you and it just couldn't wait. So really pay attention to every word in this one!

Indulge your dreams...

I remember when I used to wake up and go to a job that I hated every single day. Trudging through the day just waiting for Friday to arrive.

How sad is this existence! Now it wasn't really the job or even the getting up early part that was the real problem. It was my mind and how I thought about things.

You see, if you go through your day with the "Thank God it's Friday mentality" you'll never be happy. If on the other hand, you go through your day being thankful for what you have and not looking and thinking about what you don't have, but instead thinking about what you have and what your dreams are and how you can accomplish them, this will revive your happiness.

Indulge in your dreams. Our lives are very short, we need not go through life miserable and bored. Instead, like a little child, dream your dreams, when you go to work, make plans in your head of how you'll escape. Your job does not have to be a life sentence for you. If you do nothing however, it will be. So take action today by indulging in your dreams, get excited about them. Get that warm fuzzy feeling like I did this morning when I could not even wait to tell you what I had thought of.

This is my job, to help people and inspire them and I love it! I hope I have inspired you today and have a great day, until next post....Derek

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Part 3: becoming OCD free one step at a time.

Now you have the basic information about OCD, you probably want to know right now, what you can do right now to become OCD free.

Here are some things that you can do right now to help get you started in becoming OCD free.

• realize that you have OCD
• stop performing rituals
• face the anxiety that comes when you don't perform rituals
  
• realize that the anxiety will go away sooner than you think
• repeat the process

This is a good basic formula that you can follow to become OCD free. My whole program on how to become OCD free for life will show you exactly how all these things work and come together, but really these are some of the 'big secrets' of becoming OCD free. It's not easy, it's work, but that work pays off. I wish I could cover every aspect of my program on here, but that would take hundreds of posts. Even with that information it would take forever to sift through it and make sense of it yourself.

The best way that I've found is for people to find a mentor, it could be me or someone else, whoever you choose, make sure they used to have OCD and have truly become OCD free! Then make sure that you like them! If they will mentor you, you will shave enormous amounts of time off how long you suffer with OCD! Feel free to reply with any questions you may have.

until next post,

Derek

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Part 2: OCD cure overview, step-by-step

How OCD is formed.

Did you ever wonder how OCD formed in your life?

I used to wonder that myself, until I realized and learned certain principles and ideas about how our minds work.

One of the first things I noticed was the our brain creates 'coping mechanisms.'

When we go through a stressful situation, we think of ways to cope with it.

An example is when we were little, we may have put our head under the sheets to protect us from the evil monster in the closet.

Now that we are adults, we may repeat rituals to ourselves or do certain actions that may be based in superstition, such as kiss the cross we may be wearing around our necks for good luck.

When we become really afraid that something may happen, we get anxiety about it.

We then may turn to one of these relatively normal habits, like saying, "knock on wood." or other things like that to deal and cope with the stress of a situation.

When we start to fear that the bad thing will happen if we don't do that, that's when it becomes OCD and that's how it's formed...

Now that you know roughly how OCD formed in your life, in my next post I'm going to cover some ways in which you can start becoming OCD free yourself!

until next post.......Derek

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Part 1: The first step of the cure for OCD

I used to suffer from OCD and I had it bad! My family and friends were sick of me and I was sick of me. I considered moving away and living alone, I even considered suicide. I could not get obsessions out of my mind. Today I am OCD free and over the next few weeks, I will be sharing on here how I became OCD free. I do offer a mentoring program where I will work with you personally to help you get over OCD just like I did, but if you think you can do it alone, this blog will give you some really great free advice that you can use instantly ;p Thanks for reading...

The first part on my journey to becoming OCD free was the fact that I found out that I had OCD!

A lot of people go through life suffering from something but they don't know what it is. They think they are going crazy or that there is something wrong with their brain! Nothing could be further from the truth.

Here's how you can know if you have OCD. If you are afraid that if you don't do something, something bad will happen or could happen, you have OCD.

Once you know that you have it, you can do something about it.

What you need to know next is how OCD is formed and I will go over that on my next post; until then, have a great day ;p

Derek J. Soto

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