Q.) I have the form of OCD which takes the form of endless tidying and cleaning, not being able to bear anything being moved etc.
I have had it for most of my life and my whole life has been dominated and ruined by it to such an extent that I have not really "lived"at all.
I am now 62 and I feel that I can never get better, and that even if by some miracle I did get better, because of my age, it would be too late to have any kind of life.
What are your views on the above please?
Anonymous
A.) Anonymous, it's never too late to start living! Tell that to someone who is 92! You are just a kid to them! You've still got your youth, so what are you going to do with it? Are you going to spend the next 30 years of your life with OCD or are you going to spend the next 30 years OCD free?
The first step is that you have to believe that you can become OCD free. If you don't believe it, it can never happen, however, if you believe it, and put massive action toward your belief, not only can it happen, it will happen!
The next step is that you have an obsession with cleaning and tidying up everything. It's good to have a clean house, but you don't want to over do it!
How can you stop? Once you do one task, like cleaning the dishes. Do them one time, after they are done one time say out loud to yourself, "ok, I've done the dishes." Then go on to the next thing. If you feel the urge to do the dishes again or repeat any task again, tell yourself, "I've already done that task, and I refuse to do it again."
Now here's where you will feel great anxiety. Know that this anxiety will not harm you in any way. This anxiety is just sensations and you may feel panic. Just realize that it's just fear. Anxiety is fearing fear itself. So when you feel this anxiety, tell yourself, "alright, this is just fear of fear itself and I will not be afraid!" Then distract yourself with something that you love. You may love reading or you may have a favorite television show. Maybe you love to walk and exercise. Exercise also releases calming chemicals in the brain as well!
Now if your anxiety is extremely unbearable, make a doctors appointment so they can get you on some medication to assist you. Don't worry, you won't have to be on the medication for life, it can just help you transition. You can still do the above exercise while taking medication.
Part of becoming OCD free is re-training your mind how to deal with situations. It will want to turn to OCD and when you don't turn to OCD, you'll feel anxiety because it won't know what to turn too. You are going to turn to freedom. Knowing that giving into OCD will make it stay and get worse and continue to rob you of your life and that refusing to do the rituals is harder now, but then after a shorter time than you think, will free you from OCD.
You've just to have the discipline to do the work and I know that you can do it, you know that you can do it, so there's only one thing left to do isn't there? Do the legwork! This should really get you started off in the right direction and if you really apply it and work at it, you can get your life back and enjoy your life, you deserve it!
until next post,
Derek
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Saturday, July 19, 2008
Part 9: Question answered!
Are you certified?
I do not have any degrees in psychology or formal training in helping people with OCD. I do not offer counseling or therapy.
I suffered from OCD for two years before I learned how to cure myself of it. I was really bad and I was in rough shape. I went to a lot of therapists and counselors with no luck, just like a lot of my readers have told me happened to them.
The problem with a lot of therapists and counselors is that a lot of them actually never had OCD and so they know about it, but they don't know what it's like to have it. They don't know the struggle.
I am not saying that therapists are bad, but if you have not had the results that you want and expect from them, there are other sources.
Decide what's best for you. If a counselor works for you, great! If it doesn't, there are other options.
I learned how to become OCD free from people who have become OCD free. I went online and learned about it. I learned what I had to do and I had the discipline to do it.
Part of getting over OCD is not thinking about it. Ask someone who doesn't have OCD how much time they spend thinking about OCD or performing rituals. They will say very rarely or never. That is why they don't have OCD!
I learned how to stop my mind from engaging in the downward spiral of thinking about rituals and OCD and because I have been able to do this with great results in my life, I know it can help other people and free them from the mental torture and it has already helped a lot of people and I just put the site up recently!
until next post,
Derek
For more instantly usable free information click: Become OCD Free
I do not have any degrees in psychology or formal training in helping people with OCD. I do not offer counseling or therapy.
I suffered from OCD for two years before I learned how to cure myself of it. I was really bad and I was in rough shape. I went to a lot of therapists and counselors with no luck, just like a lot of my readers have told me happened to them.
The problem with a lot of therapists and counselors is that a lot of them actually never had OCD and so they know about it, but they don't know what it's like to have it. They don't know the struggle.
I am not saying that therapists are bad, but if you have not had the results that you want and expect from them, there are other sources.
Decide what's best for you. If a counselor works for you, great! If it doesn't, there are other options.
I learned how to become OCD free from people who have become OCD free. I went online and learned about it. I learned what I had to do and I had the discipline to do it.
Part of getting over OCD is not thinking about it. Ask someone who doesn't have OCD how much time they spend thinking about OCD or performing rituals. They will say very rarely or never. That is why they don't have OCD!
I learned how to stop my mind from engaging in the downward spiral of thinking about rituals and OCD and because I have been able to do this with great results in my life, I know it can help other people and free them from the mental torture and it has already helped a lot of people and I just put the site up recently!
until next post,
Derek
For more instantly usable free information click: Become OCD Free
Friday, July 18, 2008
Part 8: Ask me a question about OCD!
Ask me a question!
I am opening up the blog for a few questions about OCD! Just reply to this post with a question and I'll answer it for you. First come first served!
Today I have been sending out a free report on OCD that will show you how the mind works with OCD and how you can use this for an unfair advantage over OCD and other areas in your life as well that have nothing to do with OCD! This report is available to any member of my site who answers two questions.
The first question is, What kind of OCD product would you want? example, e-book, spiral bound book, work book, video, e-mail, one-on-one phone consultations, anything I didn't think of?
The second question is, How much would you pay for this product?
Anyone that answers these two questions gets my free report.
To answer these two questions, simply go to http://www.ocd-gone-in-seven-days.com
then login and the e-mail to send the answers to will be on the free members page!
If you are already a member, click on one of my previous e-mails which will contain a link to the free members area.
Today think about what your passion is. What is it that makes you really excited? What kind of things make you feel warm and fuzzy or make you smile? Think about these things, write them down. Whenever you are having a hard time or feeling down. Take out your list and envision doing or having these things and you'll start to find that you are building an oasis in your mind that you can go to whenever you are down. No longer do you have to be miserable dwelling on negative thoughts. Whenever you catch yourself dwelling on negative thoughts, go to your list and make yourself happy again. This will do wonders for the quality of your life! Try it today!
until next post,
Derek
For more instantly usable free information click: Become OCD Free
I am opening up the blog for a few questions about OCD! Just reply to this post with a question and I'll answer it for you. First come first served!
Today I have been sending out a free report on OCD that will show you how the mind works with OCD and how you can use this for an unfair advantage over OCD and other areas in your life as well that have nothing to do with OCD! This report is available to any member of my site who answers two questions.
The first question is, What kind of OCD product would you want? example, e-book, spiral bound book, work book, video, e-mail, one-on-one phone consultations, anything I didn't think of?
The second question is, How much would you pay for this product?
Anyone that answers these two questions gets my free report.
To answer these two questions, simply go to http://www.ocd-gone-in-seven-days.com
then login and the e-mail to send the answers to will be on the free members page!
If you are already a member, click on one of my previous e-mails which will contain a link to the free members area.
Today think about what your passion is. What is it that makes you really excited? What kind of things make you feel warm and fuzzy or make you smile? Think about these things, write them down. Whenever you are having a hard time or feeling down. Take out your list and envision doing or having these things and you'll start to find that you are building an oasis in your mind that you can go to whenever you are down. No longer do you have to be miserable dwelling on negative thoughts. Whenever you catch yourself dwelling on negative thoughts, go to your list and make yourself happy again. This will do wonders for the quality of your life! Try it today!
until next post,
Derek
For more instantly usable free information click: Become OCD Free
Thursday, July 17, 2008
Part 7: one of my reader's questions answered
From: anonymous,
Q: I can relate to your message a lot do to the fact that i have recently overcame the fear of swimming after reading your message of becoming OCD free. but the only fear that is stopping me form being happy is the fear of getting hurt again in a relationship. this is a fear that i don't think that i will ever overcome. is is possible that...
A: It's very possible. I myself have been in and out of relationships and it's never easy. One thing that I can tell you is that I don't regret being with any of the people I was with. I learned something being with each one. When you meet that new person that makes your heart skip a beat and you think they could be the one, give your heart to them, if they step on it, you know they're not worth it. If they embrace it and love you back, there is nothing in the universe that feels like that. Unfortunately, the only way we can truly fall in love with someone and find out if they really love us is to give the other person an opportunity to let us down.
What you can do to prevent yourself from several heartbreaks is to write down what you want in a person. Don't date someone just because you're lonely. Date someone that you are attracted to and that as far as you know, could be the one. Don't date someone that raises red flags in your mind. Make sure that you don't open your heart to them until you feel like they feel the same way about you. Wait a few months before you even consider opening up all the way to them, that way you can see what kind of person they really are. Ask them a lot of questions and find out who they are as a person. If you still think they could be the one, gradually open your heart to them, if you know their not the one, walk away...
until next post,
Derek
For more instantly usable free information click: Become OCD Free
Q: I can relate to your message a lot do to the fact that i have recently overcame the fear of swimming after reading your message of becoming OCD free. but the only fear that is stopping me form being happy is the fear of getting hurt again in a relationship. this is a fear that i don't think that i will ever overcome. is is possible that...
A: It's very possible. I myself have been in and out of relationships and it's never easy. One thing that I can tell you is that I don't regret being with any of the people I was with. I learned something being with each one. When you meet that new person that makes your heart skip a beat and you think they could be the one, give your heart to them, if they step on it, you know they're not worth it. If they embrace it and love you back, there is nothing in the universe that feels like that. Unfortunately, the only way we can truly fall in love with someone and find out if they really love us is to give the other person an opportunity to let us down.
What you can do to prevent yourself from several heartbreaks is to write down what you want in a person. Don't date someone just because you're lonely. Date someone that you are attracted to and that as far as you know, could be the one. Don't date someone that raises red flags in your mind. Make sure that you don't open your heart to them until you feel like they feel the same way about you. Wait a few months before you even consider opening up all the way to them, that way you can see what kind of person they really are. Ask them a lot of questions and find out who they are as a person. If you still think they could be the one, gradually open your heart to them, if you know their not the one, walk away...
until next post,
Derek
For more instantly usable free information click: Become OCD Free
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
Part 6: Becoming OCD free
Remember that OCD is based on a fear that you have. Remember that fears by themselves are harmless.
Keep in mind that everyone has fears, it's part of life and they are there for good reason. It's good that we are afraid of snakes or spiders, as some of the can be poisonous. Good thing we are afraid of lions or bears, as they can kill us. So fear has a productive function.
But today, people have fears about social things more than anything else. We develop this fight or flight response off things that do not warrant it. We don't live in the jungle anymore, but our genes don't seem to know that.
So we have got to retrain our minds into thinking that fears are now mostly useless. We've got to know when a fear is legitimate or not and we can know by asking ourself this simple question, "Is mine or someone else's life in real danger here?" "Is there anything that I can realistically do about it?" If the answer is no to both, then you need to put the fear aside and think about something you love and are excited about.
Think about what you have to do that day and think about how you can squeeze some adventure into your day. Let the unwanted thought linger and it will go away faster than if you try to force it out, just focus more on your adventure for the day and the quality of your life will raise greatly!
until next post,
Derek
For more instantly usable free information click: Become OCD Free
Keep in mind that everyone has fears, it's part of life and they are there for good reason. It's good that we are afraid of snakes or spiders, as some of the can be poisonous. Good thing we are afraid of lions or bears, as they can kill us. So fear has a productive function.
But today, people have fears about social things more than anything else. We develop this fight or flight response off things that do not warrant it. We don't live in the jungle anymore, but our genes don't seem to know that.
So we have got to retrain our minds into thinking that fears are now mostly useless. We've got to know when a fear is legitimate or not and we can know by asking ourself this simple question, "Is mine or someone else's life in real danger here?" "Is there anything that I can realistically do about it?" If the answer is no to both, then you need to put the fear aside and think about something you love and are excited about.
Think about what you have to do that day and think about how you can squeeze some adventure into your day. Let the unwanted thought linger and it will go away faster than if you try to force it out, just focus more on your adventure for the day and the quality of your life will raise greatly!
until next post,
Derek
For more instantly usable free information click: Become OCD Free
Monday, July 14, 2008
Part 5: Picture yourself OCD free
This may sound obvious, but I know it's grossly overlooked, but it's cool and it helps.
Picture yourself OCD free...
If you won't let it happen in your mind, how can it happen in real life?
A lot of people just want some magic pill to cure all their ills, but the only problem with this want is that it's not real. There is no magic pill that cures OCD, but there are mental exercises that we can do to reduce OCD and then become free of it.
So close your eyes, relax every muscle and picture yourself somewhere nice like the beach. Picture yourself living like you did before you had OCD.
If you've had it for as long as you remember, think of someone that you admire that you know doesn't have OCD. What kind of life do they live? How can you incorporate those positive things into your life while maintaining your own individuality?
Remember that as a man thinketh, so he is. So start getting used to picturing yourself OCD free so you can prepare your mind for the next important step which is.........until next post,
Derek
For more instantly usable free information click: Become OCD Free
Picture yourself OCD free...
If you won't let it happen in your mind, how can it happen in real life?
A lot of people just want some magic pill to cure all their ills, but the only problem with this want is that it's not real. There is no magic pill that cures OCD, but there are mental exercises that we can do to reduce OCD and then become free of it.
So close your eyes, relax every muscle and picture yourself somewhere nice like the beach. Picture yourself living like you did before you had OCD.
If you've had it for as long as you remember, think of someone that you admire that you know doesn't have OCD. What kind of life do they live? How can you incorporate those positive things into your life while maintaining your own individuality?
Remember that as a man thinketh, so he is. So start getting used to picturing yourself OCD free so you can prepare your mind for the next important step which is.........until next post,
Derek
For more instantly usable free information click: Become OCD Free
Saturday, July 12, 2008
Part 4: Becoming OCD free one step at a time
I can't believe it's 6:30 in the morning and I am blogging, I am usually up at 9 or 10! I woke up early for some reason and I had a great thought that I wanted to share with you and it just couldn't wait. So really pay attention to every word in this one!
Indulge your dreams...
I remember when I used to wake up and go to a job that I hated every single day. Trudging through the day just waiting for Friday to arrive.
How sad is this existence! Now it wasn't really the job or even the getting up early part that was the real problem. It was my mind and how I thought about things.
You see, if you go through your day with the "Thank God it's Friday mentality" you'll never be happy. If on the other hand, you go through your day being thankful for what you have and not looking and thinking about what you don't have, but instead thinking about what you have and what your dreams are and how you can accomplish them, this will revive your happiness.
Indulge in your dreams. Our lives are very short, we need not go through life miserable and bored. Instead, like a little child, dream your dreams, when you go to work, make plans in your head of how you'll escape. Your job does not have to be a life sentence for you. If you do nothing however, it will be. So take action today by indulging in your dreams, get excited about them. Get that warm fuzzy feeling like I did this morning when I could not even wait to tell you what I had thought of.
This is my job, to help people and inspire them and I love it! I hope I have inspired you today and have a great day, until next post....Derek
For more instantly usable free information click: Become OCD Free
Indulge your dreams...
I remember when I used to wake up and go to a job that I hated every single day. Trudging through the day just waiting for Friday to arrive.
How sad is this existence! Now it wasn't really the job or even the getting up early part that was the real problem. It was my mind and how I thought about things.
You see, if you go through your day with the "Thank God it's Friday mentality" you'll never be happy. If on the other hand, you go through your day being thankful for what you have and not looking and thinking about what you don't have, but instead thinking about what you have and what your dreams are and how you can accomplish them, this will revive your happiness.
Indulge in your dreams. Our lives are very short, we need not go through life miserable and bored. Instead, like a little child, dream your dreams, when you go to work, make plans in your head of how you'll escape. Your job does not have to be a life sentence for you. If you do nothing however, it will be. So take action today by indulging in your dreams, get excited about them. Get that warm fuzzy feeling like I did this morning when I could not even wait to tell you what I had thought of.
This is my job, to help people and inspire them and I love it! I hope I have inspired you today and have a great day, until next post....Derek
For more instantly usable free information click: Become OCD Free
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